• Biologically, we’re hard-wired to be terrified of rejection. This was useful all those thousands of years ago but today the fear of rejection holds us back.
• Rejection is not a be-all-and-end-all judgment on your skills, abilities, and personality, it’s the subjective opinion of one or several people whose views have been shaped by their own personalities and backgrounds. (e.g. J.K. Rowling had the first Harry Potter manuscript rejected 12 times)
• The solution for overcoming fear of rejection is to reframe your concept of it. Celebrate rejection and treat it as a valuable tool for getting you where you want and need to be in life. When you learn to overcome rejection and stop seeking as much approval from others, you naturally take more risks in life.
• Rejection is a numbers game. To get your ‘yes’ you just have to approach enough people.
• Ask why you were rejected so that you can improve your approach next time.
• Consider changing your environment or audience - Pitching to a different person or in a different environment can work wonders.
• Being afraid of rejection to the point that you give up altogether, is a rejection of yourself
• Don’t underestimate the power of humour. Go into each risk like a challenge with a playful attitude. If you choose to play it like a game, the rejection won’t be as painful or traumatic.
• When you’re authentic and discuss the reason and motivation behind your request, even if it’s trivial such as saying ‘I want X because it will make me feel better’, you increase your chances of getting it. The chance of getting a ‘yes’ increases even further when you acknowledge other people’s doubts, concerns, and even criticisms.
• Every single rejection has a positive aspect if you just take the time to look for it. Use rejection to motivate yourself towards reaching your goal by increasing your capability.
• Rejection not only makes people more empathetic, but it also makes people realize what their dreams actually mean to them - is the rejection actually worth it - do you want to pursue your dream badly enough to handle rejection after rejection? 
• The need for constant approval leads us away from staying true to ourselves and living a fulfilled life. Make it your goal in life to feel comfortable in your own skin - let your rejection journey be about ACCEPTING YOURSELF rather than about not being accepted by others. 
• For long-term success, you’ll want to detach yourself from the outcome. This means concentrating on factors that are within your control and not wasting your time and energy fretting over the unknown and factors that are beyond your control.
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The above is inspired from the bestselling book "Rejection Proof" by Jia Jiang

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